TIPS & TRICKS

6 Deep questions to help you understand why you are stuck

Oct 04, 2022

Introduction

Being stuck is like being in a dark hole. You want to climb out of it but can’t see anything or find a rope or ladder. It overwhelms you with feelings of fear, anxiety, and confusion. The world seems to speed past while you stay exactly where you are.

You realize the need to get out of your current situation, but you feel held back by an even stronger desire to do nothing to change your condition.

"When we are playing [games], we are stretching our emotional expressive ranges, loosening up our biochemical flow of information, getting unstuck, and healing our feelings". — Candace Pert.

The following soul-searching questions will help you understand why you’re feeling stuck:


Are my expectations of myself too high?

Reexamine your expectations of yourself. You can’t do everything perfectly. It is normal to feel disappointed in yourself if you don’t live up to your expectations.

Still, you will steal your joy by comparing yourself to others and having expectations so lofty that you think you’re not enough. The depressed state that will follow will keep you stuck in a rut.


What are my goals?

Living without a purpose is one of the quickest ways to find yourself in a

rut. You can’t do anything if you have no sense of direction. Since you

are stuck in a hole, the only path to go is up. How do you do this?

  • Put up a vision board. Pin pictures and words of things you find beautiful and inspiring on the vision board. Make brief notes of goals you want to accomplish. They can be big or small. How will this help you
  • Writing your goals is great, but it’s not enough. A vision board is a visual representation of your goals, which makes them feel within reach.

How much time do I spend daily on improving myself?

Are you stuck because you are making no effort to expand your knowledge? Is there a skill you can learn? Think about it. You have so much time. Consider the number of hours you spend on mind-numbing social media platforms.


Now think of how much of that time you could spend reading something you enjoy, learning a skill or a hobby. Pick one thing to do to improve yourself. Then stick with it and see how much progress you make.


If you can’t afford to go away or have the time, do something spontaneous or something you wouldn’t normally do. It helps to spice things up and get you out of your daily routine.


Do I show gratitude for the things I enjoy?

Gratitude lists can help us accomplish this. Write the things you are grateful for, even the smallest. Doing this regularly helps.

  • You will find some good things that shine through your dark feelings. Tiny spots of light brighten a dark hole. Recognize and appreciate those bright moments
Remember, just because you feel trapped doesn’t mean that you are. If you feel stuck, move. You are in control of your life. If you take what actions you can take right now, you’re not stuck.

Find what you truly want in life and get started. The more things you try, the more likely it will be for you to find your place in this world.